First for the pudding, then for the Stew!

oops.. seems I have lost track of my emoticons... hm.. guess I'll take a page from the list of a favorite haunt of mine for a time..

Listening to: The sound of morning silence and key tapping.
Reading: Naruto ... still.
Current Anime: Magical shopping arcade ... again.
Feeling: Frustrated, growlish, and sad. (I have a headache)
Internet Tabs: Rinku's website.
Obsessing Over: my side of the story, Damditall!

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Current Rant: game idiocy and some of the people involved.

Gotta get this one out in the air before it turns me an ill shade of purplish-red or something....

This is the reason I don't like to go to bed angry, not only can I not sleep worth a lick or nod, but I'm still in an ill temper when I finally drag myself out of bed. and then there's also the thought of it turning into bitterness if not resolved... which makes it a lot harder to get shed of.

ok.. Here's the situation.. I am helping someone dear to me, with a quest in a rather fun game. we are looking for scrolls which will give us entry to a special dungeon and a boss which needed to be soloed.. which is what the main quest was about.
we find only one scroll.. and it's got a time limit. so we decide to go for the main dungeon so my dear can get the boss solo.
now as far as I know for sure, no-one else in the group was allowed to enter the boss room. ok, so we get all the way down, then mdear goes in to solo the boss...beats it..and doesn't get the quest update.

So he then gets pissed and leaves us hangin at the dungeon. After a while of trying to talk to him.. trying to cheer him up, I finally get invited to 'find' him. Once located, I once more try to be of support.. and I get chewed on instead. imagine my surprise as he heaps ala blame onto me, says I withheld valuable info from him, of how he had trusted me, and I screwed it all up for him.. etc etc etc.

Now here's the issue... Before this time, a couple of days maybe, another friend wanted assistance with the same quest, which I helped in. during the dungeon run, she insisted on picking up all the door keys.. and when we came to the boss room, she had us disband and return to the surface.
When mdear showed up. I told him about the friend having gone through the quest. but either he didn't get the connection, or he wasn't listening.. how was I to know? When we got into the main dungeon, he was racing along.. not giving any real opportunity for chatting, and I sorta figured he must already have an idea as to how it worked... especially as I wasnt to sure if it was all necessary anyway. Big mistake. soooo

While I am willing to accept the thought that he didn't know something I should have shared... I -did- tell him about the friend having gone through it.. several times, in fact... I think perhaps he could be looking the situation over a bit more carefully before throwing around accusations. beh.

At this point, I think I'm gunna bow out of this particular quest. dearful can foot it on his own.. especially since I have no desire to be blamed for 'screwing it all up' for him again.

Someone once summed it up for me in this way.. the next time you go pointing a finger at someone else.. take a look at your hand, and you'l notice not one, but three fingers pointing straight back at you.

The bible puts it another way..

“Judge not, that you be not judged. For with the judgment you pronounce you will be judged, and with the measure you use it will be measured to you. Why do you see the speck that is in your brother's eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when there is the log in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother's eye.
Matthew 7:1-5 *

In other words.. what you give out comes back to you.. don't be putting the blame or scoffing at others for their flaws and mistakes when you just may have bigger ones of your own to deal with first.

others have their own way of saying it..
Karma - the totality of a person's actions in any one of the successive states of that person's existence, thought of as determining the fate of the next stage. **

and..
What goes around, comes around. ***

-sigh- I guess this is another one of those "lessons learned" deals.

When some great sorrow, like a mighty river,
Flows through your life with peace-destroying power
And dearest things are swept from sight forever,
Say to your heart each trying hour:
"This, too, shall pass away."

When ceaseless toil has hushed your song of gladness,
And you have grown almost too tired to pray,
Let this truth banish from your heat its sadness,
And ease the burdens of each tiring day:
"This, too, shall pass away."

When fortune smiles, and, full of mirth and pleasure,
The days are flitting by without a care,
Lest you should rest with only earthly treasure,
Let these few words their fullest import bear:
"This, too, shall pass away."

When earnest labor brings you fame and glory,
And all earth's noblest ones upon you smile,
Remember that life's longest, grandest story
Fills but a moment in earth's little while:
"This, too, shall pass away."

-by: Lanta Wilson Smith



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* http://www.openbible.info/topics/judging_others
** http://www.yourdictionary.com/karma
*** http://wiki.answers.com/Q/What_is_the_meaning_of_what_goes_around_comes_around